Loneliness The Silent Killer by The Spiritual Princess-Jayapalashri Anil
Loneliness The Silent Killer
No matter how many times I write about loneliness there is still a lot to be covered and spoken about. In today’s time and age loneliness has become a major issue for many. Due to social conditioning and taboo many wish to not discuss this. Gradually slipping into a state of darkness and denial.
Many may wonder what loneliness is. And why is there so much spoken about loneliness?
Loneliness is defined by researchers as feeling lonely more than once a week. Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone, and unwanted. Lonely people often crave human contact, but their state of mind makes it more difficult to form connections with other people. Today a lot is spoken about it as many thoughts in family and with loved ones feel lonely and lost. At times having fear of
- Being Accepted
- Criticism
- Humiliated
- Rejection
This leads one to shut themselves and avoid talking or expressing one's feelings or thoughts. The biggest fear one has is of “ Being Judged”.
We can have everyone loving us and making us feel special and wanted nevertheless still carry the darkness of loneliness within us. It is something to be looked into and taken care of. It’s no more something to shy away from and not talk about. There are many people from different age groups going through this for various reasons in life.
They are not to be made fun of or criticised as they are suffering silently in a state of uncertainties and emotions which they are unable to express or even communicate. In such cases one should seek help from professionals like healers/ counsellors to assist them to help them step out of that state.
Normally a common statement said is “ what for him/ her, they have everything in life?”
This is not something to be said without knowing the facts or what exactly is happening. Building your opinions with your perceptions is absolutely wrong. Try to see what’s happening before commenting or even brushing something off saying it’s nothing.
Some common Symptoms of being lonely are:-
1. Unable to express or communicate themselves with what they are going through in their life.
2. Shying away in big gatherings and groups by being distant or aloof and not wishing to speak up or voice themselves.
3. The need to stay away from socializing. Giving excuses to avoid meetups.
4. Carrying self-doubt and holding onto uncertainties. The lack of self-worthiness and confidence at zero.
5. Sleep disorders
6. Crying often by themselves
7. Being in depression ( though this can be chicken and egg story)
One needs to understand the importance and difference between being alone and being lonely. It’s not the same thing, so do not brush it off or say some callous statements to someone who is feeling lonely.
How to help someone is in a state of being lonely:-
1. Try to get them a support group where they can be themselves and also speak up and seek guidance from others.
2. Get them to a Healer/ Counsellor to help them to heal.
3. Hear them out without being judgmental or being pessimistic.
4. Encourage them to communicate without any fear or apprehensiveness.
5. Pamper them and express your love and concern for them. Don’t show it as a false expression but show it from your heart.
6. Ask them how you can help them and what kind of help they would need.
7. Do fun things together and involve them with all your activities.
8. Make them journal their thoughts and feelings.
9. Introduce them to a new hobby that would help one bring out their creativity.
10. Offering to enroll them in mediation classes would be beneficial and help them to align themselves to the true self.
Allow yourself / the other person to be mindful and not to dwell in the past. As the past can’t be undone and the future is something that can’t be controlled or changed. Only the present is all that one has, so encouraging them to be mindful and start living in the moment helps one not stay for long in the state of being lonely.
When we can elaborate on LONELY we can say look towards being loving living in the moment without getting overwhelmed. Look at nurturing and being enthusiastic and bringing the lively person who is yearning to live life.
JayaPalashri Anil-The Spiritual Princess
Founder -Samskara Healing
Shaman/Reiki Grandmaster/Healer & Blogger
